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HOPELESS OR HOPEFUL

16 Saturday Oct 2010

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Hope, Hopefulness, Lifestyles, Love

HOPELESS OR HOPEFUL

 

Are you always left to wonder, hopeless or hopeful romantic?  We live in a world, where, by the nature of our lifestyles – the busy way we proceed through our days, we are often hitting and missing the mark with one another . . . love is left stranded and abandoned on the rocky shore, battered by the waves, we are beaten down.  We search, we seek, we hope, we wait. We give and expect, until we think, surely there is nothing worth giving and waiting for.  Just when we think we will find love, sometimes even then, it can be a shocking and surprise reality check.  We might begin to think love is a great urban myth created by some mass marketer just to get us to buy more greeting cards!  Love is real, it just isn’t always really there.  It might be imagined, it might even be so hoped for, that it becomes an illusion pursued by two people who aren’t even able to see the facade which they created.  In other words, sometimes love becomes so desired, the very hope of it is what makes it seem a genuine occurrence, when in fact, it isn’t love, it is infatuation or another precursor to love, which will then wither and die.  Love will never wither and die.  Never.  Not when it is real.  It may be injured, maimed, abused and become tainted by melodious additives like jealousy and resentment, but real love is felt forever.  There is always a piece of the heart which holds the love of another forever.

Now that’s the bleak part.  The better part is the hopeful part.  The hopeless part speaks to those who strive to find love, again and again, making the same mistakes, the same choices, the same plays in all the same “games” repeatedly.  It isn’t that they actually want the same result, but they never learned from the prior experiences, which is the most desired part of having those life-lessons which can hurt.  We are compelled to learn something from each one to move ourselves forward in the process of living, so that we are not continuously repeating those very same mistakes.  That is the goal. It is only when we know who we are, love ourselves and respect ourselves adequately, and have a genuine appreciation for the chance to give our love before receiving it, that we will even have a chance at finding the real depth of love which exists in a relationship between two strangers brought together in a committed relationship.  Love isn’t about completion, nor is it about waiting upon someone else to make you happy . . . it’s about a true and real desire to be the addition to another person’s life, with the desired goal of enhancing their life, helping them through all aspects of living, and giving your love, care and compassion in an unselfish way to another person for the total betterment of their experience while here on planet Earth.  If you are measuring those gifts you give on a meter, or placing too much expectation about what you’re receiving in return, then chances are you might only ever find a superficial aspect of emotion, which never leads to the depths you are hoping for where love is concerned.

The most hopeful elements of love to me are the ways it can actually catch you by surprise when just musing it over.  It exists internally at such a level of consciousness, that it almost feels surreal at times.  It is truly indescribable.  It is hard for most people to make an adequate attempt at describing what love is . . a feeling, an emotion, a sense . . it is all of that and so much more.  It is beyond definition because it is beyond our capability of understanding in its most genuine form.  Real love, the kind which outlasts the initial attraction phase, and grows into the full-fledge, stand-by-one-another-forever stage is something so pure of spirit, so totally unfettered by human flaws of thinking and behaving, that it is surely beyond even our ability to measure, define, nor verbalize, much less properly understand. It is the ability to put yourself after another in need; to want the very best for another human in every endeavor; to feel a need to protect, nurture and assist another without fear for your own safety in this life even.  Does that sound too dramatic, too fantastic to you?  Then perhaps you’ve not loved anyone unconditionally through a daily decisive covenant to do exactly that.  Love, the best gift you ever received, is only that way when you first give it away without ever expecting its return!  Love, in any language, is always hopeful, the greatest source of joy, the biggest purveyor of faith, and the truest gift of God’s grace.  

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IT'S IN THE SIMPLE MOMENTS

13 Wednesday Oct 2010

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Appreciation, Beauty, Contentment, Faith, Joy, Peace

IT’S IN THE SIMPLE MOMENTS

 

It is in the simplest moments when our lives are truly definable.  We can either find our peace, by finding our joy, our spirit’s contentment, our live’s fulfillment . . .or we can deny ourselves all of this by living as slaves to time, to modern society’s expectations upon our lives, and by forgetting to stop along our daily pathways to just be.

Just by being in our lives, we can heal many holes which can rip us apart.  We are not victims unless we allow ourselves to be defined that way.  We should refute that label and instead gladly wear the title of human being.  It sounds like we are already wearing that title, but most of us, particularly in the USA, have forgotten how to have simple daily moments of nothingness.  Nothingness is good.  It is more than alright to let a day pass with time spent doing nothing but being.  It is called nothingness, but in truth, it is the most productive posture our spirits can assume in life.  Nothingness means that we are able to stop and smell the roses, taking time to look up into the clouds for their most noticeable formations, and to wile away hours not doing a single thing other than just being.

What are the best simple moments you have had?  Mine are always in nature . . . with a few exceptions included.  But for the most part, I enjoy the simple moments when I am looking or being a part of nature’s great array of beauty and variation.  I truly like stopping to smell the roses!  All flowers, animals, clouds, plants, scenes of nature, and anything which inspires my creative soul is like a meditative time when I partake of its view.  If I see a plant in bloom, like a rose bush for instance, I am drawn to it like metal to a magnet.  It is my nature to scan my surroundings no matter where I go to look for nature’s finest source of joyous beauty!  It is my interest which claims my attention!  The only other moments which rival nature’s hold upon my attentions is when I am with my loved ones and friends.  In those times, life can seem to stand still.  It often happens that the hours spent doing what I love with someone I love precludes my ability to notice time at all.  I am lost . . . like time becomes a sea and my life floats by unendingly!                                                      

No matter what motivates you and your spirit when seeking the simplicity of life, I hope you will deem it a worthy endeavor.  Never lose your ability to stop and partake of life . . . living each day surely, but also just being!  Life is a beautiful banquet of experience, stop and enjoy it!  Don’t let life pass you by, it is a priceless gift to stop in your endeavors and notice life happening all around you!  Some of the richest moments we can have will come from the world quietly happening around us.  Have faith, live life simply and with appreciation for all the joy you are finding in the small, quiet moments of life!

 

REMARKABLE DAYS

10 Sunday Oct 2010

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God, Jesus Christ, Life, Time

REMARKABLE DAYS

 

We know these days, the ones which each year stand out and become our most hoped for days!  I’ll call them remarkable, but in truth, all of our days should be remarkable!  For us to not label our days this way, each and every one, we cheat ourselves of our precious time.  We have only what number we were promised when we were designed by our Father.  From our first to our last, we decide how and what becomes our legacy of days.
 
This day, 10/10/10 is only going to happen once.  We with our mortality, will not know this measured time again.  We will know other special days noted for their curious specialty in time, such as next year’s 11/11/11.  But in truth, yesterday mattered, today is crucial, and tomorrow is our dream hoped for.  We shouldn’t decide that only today is special for the relevance of three numbers lining up so methodically.  It’s more than that . . our days are precious for the fact that each one becomes more valuable as we live the last . . . the minute today passes, tomorrow becomes the only one which matters.  It is the single most significant day that you will have to live.  Live it fully, with intention to see your dreams realized through faith, hope, and perseverance to endure!  

Life is rarely easy any longer, seems we all are suffering and enduring something.  But the most important thing to understand at this critical juncture of time is that we don’t have time to waste!  Life isn’t limitless, infinite and expendable.  We shouldn’t allow ourselves to waste time nor to be so mocking of circumstances, just because we feel compelled to cower down and wait out the storms!  Waiting doesn’t have to mean that we are watching life pass as we lie in fear hoping for new events to prevail.  Decide today that it means the world to you!  

Today, the only day you know for sure you are promised, it’s remarkable for that very reason!!

MODERN TECHNOLOGY … PRATFALLS AND STUMBLES

07 Thursday Oct 2010

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Challenges, Technology, technophobe

MODERN TECHNOLOGY . . . PRATFALLS AND STUMBLES

 

AY YI YI . . . that’s where this story begins!  I am a proclaimed technophobe.  There is nothing which scares me more than the premise of this box called the computer and all the pratfalls and traps, stumbles and mistakes it enables me to make in the name of progress into the 21st century.  It is my nemesis, my friend, my companion, and my biggest black hole of uncertainty.  It breaks, I go nuts.  It breaks, I go nuts, and it breaks, I go nuts!

Today, after doing without the laptop for about a week, I finally pick up the new and improved, healed version.  It cost me $80.00.  I shouldn’t complain, but then upon returning home with said machine, I cannot access it.  The security code has eluded me, it is lost . . . somewhere in my steel trap, and although I made this magical code within the last few years, it might as well be a dead language, it’s gone!  Now, this is surely my fault, no mistaking that.  My point is, this beast of a techno gadget, is now holding me hostage for the sake that I cannot remember said code!  I’ve no entry to the machine I just spent that money to repair.  Besides the anticipation, I’ve work to do, but now it is waiting longer, as I need some help to access this information.  I cannot get in . . . it’s the football, I’m the president, and I forgot the code which changes the course of mankind!  LOL

What was my solution you ask?  Why a handy dandy local bookstore with free wi-fi.  I’ve come to mooch the internet acess I hoped I could use with their signal, their access codes, and their freedom!  My own walls have locked me out, but their wall fell down conveniently for me, long enough to do some things which are pressing, hoping that my “computer guy” can come on a mercy mission to fix it all for me!  It’s so easy when you get it, so difficult when you are standing on the outside of the 21st century, watching some device, much like HAL  . . . the computer in the movie, “2001, A Space Odyssey” taking charge of everything, while you sit, witnessing life at its most frustrating!

And so I reiterate, modern technology, full of pratfalls, I stumble and wish for just a little bit more clarity!  Bring it on!  Hal, are you listening? 

 

 

THE FABRIC OF OUR LIVES

01 Friday Oct 2010

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God, Love

THE FABRIC OF OUR LIVES

 

You’ve all heard this little jingle, at least in America, that the fabric of our life is cotton.  Well, I say, the fabric of our lives is love.  It has been and always will be the binding tie which connects us all.  We are all united by humanity, which is a byproduct of love.  Love is the seed of all creation, whether or not your birth can be a recognizable as the personification of something loving or a result of something less noble, such as an act of lust between two strangers, or even scientific intervention through laboratory procedures, at the root of all love in this world is the Creator of this world, God, whom is the ultimate source of love.

How do we know love from any other feeling or mood, sense or notion we experience?  Love is transcendence, it is a desire to live more for another than for self, to give of self to the betterment of another’s life, to improve the life of another human being by your compassion, care, and nurturing.  Love is the most selfish, yet riskiest proposition that is known to mankind.  Without love, no one could dwell peacefully anywhere . . within our familial homes, with our spouses, with our children, in our more modern lifestyles, with our neighbors, our friends, our communities, and with our God.  Without love, nothing good could prosper, we wouldn’t desire anything good like nature’s well-being, we wouldn’t procreate nor would we want to see the longevity of those we love.  We would selfishly take life for ourselves, then we would be unable to share our time, our space, our innermost beings with anyone, much less those close to us.  Love, were it to wither away and die, would leave a bleak existence in its wake!

So how can love be revived, refreshed, perpetuated, and prolonged?  Love is the most beautiful sensory garden that we can create inside our beings.  When we love, we are most connected to another human being, to such an extent that we actually are at an elevated risk of being easily offended, hurt, harmed, and brokenhearted if things don’t go our way.  Love isn’t a guarantee, nor a sure-thing, but it’s a promise nonetheless!  Believe and have faith, let your heart be open, and let yourself feel love when it comes to nest in your garden!  Be alive in those moments, don’t shut down, nor let bitterness rob you of love’s potential.  Love only stands a chance when it is given fertile ground to grow!  Love needs you to be a constant and present gardener, whom cares, gives, endures and hopes, faithfully and earnestly letting love flow into what you are nurturing!

 

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