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The Community of Humanity

03 Thursday Jan 2013

Posted by Cheryl Ries in Character, Choices, Fullness, Gratitude, Joy, Love

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There’s no reason to take delight in anyone else’s misfortune, for in due time, you will find your own. We show our interior motives of love, compassion & humanity when we earnestly know that our success in not taken through someone’s failure, but rather just a desire to see ourselves as well as others succeed. We’ve grown accustomed to wanting to see someone fall hard. Like gladiators, we “duke it out” to take it all but we fail to see that there is actually more for the taking if we would just see the whole picture of abundance.
We watch our reality shows hoping to see humiliation in defeat, the self-destruct button of life coming down hard on our opponent’s side while we are lifted to some fleeting place of self-glorification. That is not how life is meant to be lived. Although competition is a healty &  perfectly-acceptable part of our interactions, we aren’t meant to take what isn’t meant for us, or to win at any cost. We are truly meant to be a part of our communities, of interconnected “families” which strive to make things good for one another, not to slam one another down to take what wasn’t ours fairly.
We’re meant to love ourselves not to the point of excluding the others around us in some narcissistic way, but rather so that our self-acceptance enables us to do not only what is right for ourselves as well as to see what might be best for others. We are meant to share the lessons learned in life, often the hard way truly, not by taking them out on one another but rather by using the lessons to guide one another, offering our expertise to one another & by serving one another in mentorship. We forget that in our great promise lies the reward not for only ourselves & those closest to us, but our success in life offers great rewards to others through our abilities to provide more, to do more, to create more, to be more thoughtful & wise.
None of us should hope for the demise of others for the sake of our success, but rather we should use our success to inspire others as a way that they too can be successful. If your intention is to harm others in pursuit of your dreams, then you will never find your dreams realized. You must want the best for yourself, but also for those with whom you are associated. That is how the community of our humanity works best, for that is how we humans are designed to function. God did not intend, I believe, for our differences to make us isolated, but rather for them to make us more interested in one another! You can be all you can be & still let others be their fully-actualized selves too! Encourage, instill & never let your character suffer for the life you choose to live!_Sign01

Put Meaning in Your Words . . Act on Them!

03 Thursday Jan 2013

Posted by Cheryl Ries in Character, Commitment, Integrity

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The age-old adage states, “what you see is what you get”, which is mostly true, but even better is this, “Trust develops only in the time it takes to verify what you think you know of someone by witnessing their words & beliefs resonate through their actions!”  We do ourselves a great disservice when we speak falsely without intending to follow up through our actions, talking about who we are but …then failing to back it up. 
People should first live by their own words in regard to who they are, how they wish to be known by what they wish to impart of themselves to others they meet. Being less through your actions than stated in your words causes others to become confused about who you really are, for they are watching for you to live as you’ve professed. Put meaning in your words by acting in accordance to them! That is what most others expect from you & that is what your own character demands of you. Anything less is flaky, dishonorable or disreputable. And in turn, what you have then projected in lack of character & meaning to others will come to rest in you.
Self-integrity is the concept of living to our self-defined character, so that when we state who we are with clarity for ourselves, others may know us by our words, our actions & our beliefs. We cannot speak idly often, failing to follow through with our actions repeatedly, without damaging our character in the eyes of others, but also significantly impairing our own integrity in the process! We are truly who we say we are by what we then will do & how we then will be. Be real, be forthright, for that is what others are hoping to find in relationship with you.  When first meeting you, people are drawn to you for reasons you initially present to them through introductory words & sensations about who you are. They then expect to find the words were not invalid, but that your words were clear in defining who you are to them. Being truthful about who you are, what you want & what you expect from others first takes being truthful with your own self in that regard! It cannot be said how very important it is to live by your word with integrity & character, for it does matter greatly to others, but more importantly to yourself!_Sign01
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